Earlier this week I sat glued to the TV screen watching the total eclipse footage as the moon passed and obscured the sun across the US. Many people being interviewed couldn’t contain their excitement in anticipation of this once in a lifetime experience. Total eclipse’s do happen approximately every eighteen months however they are not always visible on land, so this was a remarkable event to witness.

It wasn’t until the news reporter reminded us that there was a total eclipse in the UK back in August 1999, that I remembered I’d been there in person. This was a once in a lifetime event that had completely dropped from my once in a lifetime memory bank. How did I forget this once in a lifetime moment until this week?

We are fortunate to live among nature and wildlife, on our doorstep is a Site of Scientific Interest (SSSI) and our home is our sanctuary. A calm, restful spot where we can observe and notice the seasons. You could be fooled that you’re in the countryside, but in reality we’re just on the edge of West London in a frantic, fast-paced urban area. This is the time of year where we’re supposed to feel festive, jolly and full of joy. But it seems this season is testing everybody’s patience.

Within the feminine woman there is a firm and fierce power. She emits a powerful, embodied grounded energy that she is not to be messed with. She is respected and she knows to listen and trust herself more than anyone. It is a daily balancing practice to move through masculine and feminine energy, regardless of gender. This is feeling over thinking, being over doing, resting over pushing and intuition over logic.

We have spent thousands of years with the masculine in the driving seat. And look where we are.

So now bringing more of the feminine back into balance is required within and around us.

When the leaves fall the world is surrendering. Letting go of the pieces and parts that can no longer serve in a positive way. Trees hold strong to their core and survive the storms. But every good tree knows that as time goes by, the leaves will come back and we’ll get to start again.

When you’re feeling low on energy, depleted, frazzled, tired and wired this your moment to say no.

No to scrolling on social media land.

No to external requests and demands that you simply don’t have time or energy for.

No to things you feel obliged to, or should, but really could do without right now.

And know this is your moment to say yes to you.

As you begin to BE more in mind, body and soul you learn to trust your intuition and the whispers within guiding you forwards.

At first what is revealed to you may make absolutely no sense.

It may take several nudges and spiritual signs before you pay full attention.

It may takes hours, days, weeks or even years.

It may take you down and bring about an enforced pause with illness or a life changing occurrence.

But what is meant to be discovered will come to you in full eventually.

As each year passes I have learned that in order to hear myself think, feel and be I need space and solitude.

This includes being online and social media. We are heavily caught up in the lives and thoughts of others, but what about yours? How do you think and feel, do you know?

There are times to tune in, and precious time to tune right out.

Not all the time, I am also a sociable being too and love to chat to other humans too….. But I know when the time comes for me to retreat. Mr M recognises the signs too.

I feel restless. A bit stroppy. And don’t want to talk. I need peace and quiet. Do you?

As we move through life we are continually learning, growing and evolving. There is an ebb and flow, times when we absorb, times when we percolate and times when we put our new learning into action.

As I reflect back on my own life there are threads that cleverly weave their way through.

Every moment matters.

Every hour spent matters.

Every day matters.

Every week matters.

Every month matters.

Every year matters.

What you choose to do matters.

How you choose to BE really matters.

The theme this year for Baby Loss Awareness week is ‘Stepping Stones - looking at this unexpected path through life that comes after loss’. So here are some of my own insights, as following the loss of our angel Grace Rose in 2015 I unexpectedly found myself on another life path that I’d never envisaged.