One Small Step One Giant Leap.

One Small Step One Giant Leap.

Being able to seek the right help can be a challenge for women in business. We often try and manage alone and doing everything means we can get ourselves into a right old pickle, even to breaking point before we’d even consider finding anyone else to help us. We can be our own worst critics and believe we have to have it all sussed on our own.

HERE COMES THE JUGGLING ACT

One of the reasons I believe we are reluctant to get what we need when we need it is because we have been taught to become Super Women. From a young age we’ve been conditioned to be Juggling Queens whose role in life it seems is to keep everyone else happy and everything ticking over, even if it is at the detriment of our own happiness and well being.

Society Says Yes Be Yourself. Just Not Like That.

Society Says Yes Be Yourself. Just Not Like That.

Show and up and be yourself. Be authentic and speak your truth. As this is the only way to find and connect with your people. Except this is tricky when you’re not sure what your truth is. Who your people are. And where to find them.

No two people are the same. We experience life and business differently. We may agree on some things and not on others. We have different beliefs and values. And people will think nothing of telling you that they think you’re wrong if they don’t agree with you, especially on social media.

So it can put you off “speaking your truth”. You may retreat back to where it is safe and comfortable and just blend in with everyone else. Not choose to upset the apple cart. Say nothing just in case someone no longer likes you or wants to be in your social gang.

But we won’t change and improve the world if we retreat. Will we?

The Conversation That Speaks From Soul To Soul

The Conversation That Speaks From Soul To Soul

I often find myself out and about having seemingly random conversations with strangers. People will stop me in the street and ask for directions. They’ll ask me where to find something in a shop. They’ll stop and chat as they go for a walk with their dogs whilst I tidy the front garden.

Someone will make conversation on the Tube in London. Where the typical etiquette is not to make eye contact, let alone utter a word to another human being.

I’ve even flown back from Bordeaux to London and spent the entire flight chatting to a woman sitting next to me, who apologised to my husband for keeping me talking. (He was fine with it as it gave him some peace for an hour or so.)

At networking meetings I meet the people I am meant to meet. Magically we seem to gravitate towards like minded people. So conversations flow easily. Most of the time we aren’t even talking about business. We are getting to know each other better and choose to meet up again as we often run out of time and there’s more to discuss.

And so now I can see that another thread throughout my life is that I am a confidante. People always seem to tell me their inner most thoughts and I am a trusted keeper of secrets. I don’t ask them to share. It just happens. And these days more frequently.

Change is Inevitable. Growth is Intentional.

Change is Inevitable. Growth is Intentional.

Within the shelves in my office are notebooks. Pretty notebooks. Scrappy notebooks. Small notebooks. Packs of notebooks. Too good to use notebooks. At a glance you can tell I am very happy with a nice new notebook. Or even several because they all serve a purpose eventually.

Buried within the well worn pages of my notebooks are reminders, important things inside that must not be forgotten. But often are.

I have always loved stationery. Notebooks and coloured pens are fabulous. Yes technology is brilliant and helpful too, I am partial to using Evernote when I feel super productive and efficient. But you cannot beat a lovely hand stitched notebook from Paperchase.

This year I made a decision about the notebooks, let’s call this an intention. I decided to change how I intend to use them. Because I’d have quotes in one, to-do’s in another, random ideas and creative downloads in another and I’d struggle to find all the good stuff I kept for a specific reason.

So whilst I love new notebooks, instead of buying several I decided to invest in one.

Fortunately, I didn’t need to venture too far as sitting on the shelf in my office was a lovely notebook with gorgeous birds and butterflies on the cover that my husband had purchased as a gift for me sometime ago. Waiting to be used. (He is very thoughtful with the gifts he buys, so I’ll mention it here just in case he reads this post!)

Back to the notebook. I’d been keeping this notebook for special purposes. And this seemed the perfect time to put it to good use.

You’ll have heard of vision boards. This has become my very own vision book.

The Value Of Knowing Your Worth

The Value Of Knowing Your Worth

Have you ever found yourself working with someone who you knew was far from your dream client? But you agreed to work them even though your inner voice was strongly advising you to say no.

Or what about finding yourself in a coffee shop having yet another “pick your brain” session giving away your free guidance and advice. But you know this person is not willing to pay the price of a 1-1 session to work with you instead?

Or maybe you’ve given away plentiful discounts and freebies to try to convince your new client that you are worth every penny? But as a result end up struggling to pay your bills.

I’ve found myself in these situation too.

Because there are many lessons to learn when you are a soulful petite business owner. One of them is knowing the value of your worth.

Become A Priority In Your Life

Become A Priority In Your Life

On my entrepreneurial journey I have met many people who, like me once worked within a more corporate environment with “proper” jobs before they decided to run their own petite business. Along with this “proper” job came corporate conditioning, which included set office working hours week in week out with little flexibility.

On the flipside when you work for yourself there is flexibility and many perks. You are your own boss. You get to decide how, when and where you work. You could have a duvet day and stay in your pajamas if you wish. You could start early and finish early to get outside and make the most of the sunshine. You could go to a nice cafe to work. Or join in with a yoga class during the day. Or even spend some time with your loved ones and family on a jolly outing. There are so many things you could do. But do you?

Be The Change You Wish To See

Be The Change You Wish To See

Several years ago I wrote about it being time for women to rise. That the world is beginning to wake up to a new way of being and I could clearly see women finding their voices to speak out about things that truly matter in life and business. Earlier this year I had a conversation with a TV producer to see whether or not I would be willing to participate in a new documentary about highlighting the impact of miscarriage. When faced with an important decision to make I usually follow my yes, no or maybe gut instinct and in this case it was an immediate yes.

Climbing Up The Ladder Of Success

Climbing Up The Ladder Of Success

We all have different wants and needs for our lives and businesses and what we class as success varies from person to person.

Success may look like keeping up appearances online and becoming a “social influencer” with thousands of followers on social media. It may look like a diary chock-a-block with clients. It may look like hitting your sales targets and being a six-figure business. Or it may mean being interviewed on TV or for a well known magazine. These are all fabulous achievements.

But we don’t all desire the same things.

SUCCESS IS AN INSIDE JOB

On my Instagram feed I noticed another post with “Here are my top ten secrets for success” and decide to scroll on. Sometimes I am curious about others ideas of success. But these days not so much because I have learnt to figure out my own.

As when you pay more attention to others definition of success and ignore the whispers of your own inner guidance it’s likely you’ll end up with a petite business that looks great from the outside looking in.

But it doesn’t feel so good to you.

You don’t feel successful so you keep moving the goal posts. Striving for more. Searching for fulfillment in the wrong places. And wondering why others appear to be successful and you’re not?

There Is A Voice Within So I Write

There Is A Voice Within So I Write

There have been two constants that have sustained me throughout my life and are now entwined into my soul-led work and living brand. Writing and gardening. And yet it has taken a long time for me to recognise these two significant threads weaving their way in and out of my life and work since childhood.

WRITING IS MY GO TO

Even if writing wasn’t within my existing job role or a need to for my petite business I know I will always continue to put pen to paper. Just because it's what I love to do. 

First and foremost I write for me. To articulate my thoughts and ideas. To process what I feel and see going on in the world around me and of course to share my stories.

Writing is like my therapy and it has seen me through some pretty dark days and back towards the light. You could say it’s a lifelong trusted friend that doesn’t speak out loud, but gently guides me forward to discover the answers I seek all from the words written on the page.

And now I can clearly see that my writing practice sustains all of me, in my day-to-day life and within my petite business. It isn't one or the other it is a blend of both.

Simply One of a Kind

Simply One of a Kind

Within the Social Collective we’ve been talking in depth about how to deal with other similar businesses replicating our work. It seems this is a hot topic at the moment. And just as everything was hunky dory in my world with the sun shining outside, I sat at my desk and caught up on emails.

There waiting for me was an email from a friend saying “Have you seen this, it looks remarkably like yours?” She’d attached a link and was referring to a brand new collective that had launched. 

Yes I had seen it and I too could see immediately the striking similarities between my social collective and this new one.

I am wise enough to know mine isn’t going to be the only one in the world. There are loads of Collectives out there with more popping up all the time. But this one with the entire concept, features and mechanics very identical to mine. It is too similar.

Surely not a coincidence?