Despite any short-term or long-term plans we may have life will throw us unforeseen curve balls that change everything, including all our plans in an instant. It could be due to redundancy, sudden poor health, an accident, bereavement or even just a change of heart. But when it happens to you, you realise you are not always the one in charge or control of your destiny.
You cannot fail to see and know that we are all living in a time of huge uncertainty and unrest globally. But despite this remarkable human beings are no longer willing to be silent, we are speaking up, me included. Whether it’s in politics, raising awareness of environmental issues, questioning in-equality and discrimination or even sharing our stories to aid others using our voices boldly and courageously to speak the once unspeakable it is all transforming everything for the greater good and for humanity.
Despite our best intentions life and business does not always go to plan. We put in the work, show up and are ready and willing to take action, but regardless of our efforts we spin our wheels.
So what do we do, push even harder to get the job done?
Or realise it’s time to pause and pull back?
One of my own intentions for 2019 is to finish writing my book and publish in the autumn. I’ve connected with a lovely copy editor and thought I’d have the draft copy done and dusted and sent over to her by the end of February. But alas no. The deadline came and went.
I haven’t been shirking. This delay was not due to a lack of effort on my part, as I’ve diligently spent hours and hours sitting at my desk writing thousands of words. However my thinking at the beginning of the year was that I just needed to flesh things out a bit.
From a young age we are segmented into those who can and those who cannot. At our school we did the 12+ exam to see if we were clever enough to go to Grammar school. I wasn’t. Fortunately for me many of my circle of friends weren’t either. But it was one of those early life lessons where you begin to realise sometimes you are not enough. You don’t have the right skills or knowledge therefore you end up in the “Can’t Camp”.
Is it safe to re-emerge online after the seasonal festivities? Have all the New Year, New You platitudes gone away yet?
As another new year begins you may feel the pressure to get cracking, with your foot to the floor. Just because that is what is expected isn’t it?
But many of us are not huge fans of New Year. Including me. The expectations. The pressure to know precisely what you want to do with the year ahead. The resolutions. The endless quotes and meme’s in circulation. It’s definitely a time to tune out for a while.
Being able to seek the right help can be a challenge for women in business. We often try and manage alone and doing everything means we can get ourselves into a right old pickle, even to breaking point before we’d even consider finding anyone else to help us. We can be our own worst critics and believe we have to have it all sussed on our own.
Show and up and be yourself. Be authentic and speak your truth. As this is the only way to find and connect with your people. Except this is tricky when you’re not sure what your truth is. Who your people are. And where to find them.
No two people are the same. We experience life and business differently. We may agree on some things and not on others. We have different beliefs and values. And people will think nothing of telling you that they think you’re wrong if they don’t agree with you, especially on social media.
I often find myself out and about having seemingly random conversations with strangers. People will stop me in the street and ask for directions. They’ll ask me where to find something in a shop. They’ll stop and chat as they go for a walk with their dogs whilst I tidy the front garden.
Someone will make conversation on the Tube in London. Where the typical etiquette is not to make eye contact, let alone utter a word to another human being.
Within the shelves in my office are notebooks. Pretty notebooks. Scrappy notebooks. Small notebooks. Packs of notebooks. Too good to use notebooks. At a glance you can tell I am very happy with a nice new notebook. Or even several because they all serve a purpose eventually.
Buried within the well worn pages of my notebooks are reminders, important things inside that must not be forgotten. But often are.
Have you ever found yourself working with someone who you knew was far from your dream client? But you agreed to work them even though your inner voice was strongly advising you to say no.
Or what about finding yourself in a coffee shop having yet another “pick your brain” session giving away your free guidance and advice. But you know this person is not willing to pay the price of a 1-1 session to work with you instead?
Or maybe you’ve given away plentiful discounts and freebies to try to convince your new client that you are worth every penny? But as a result end up struggling to pay your bills.
I’ve found myself in these situation too.
Because there are many lessons to learn when you are a soulful petite business owner. One of them is knowing the value of your worth.